Anger: It is a strong feeling  of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility that makes you want to hurt someone or be unpleasant because of something unfair or unkind that has happened.

What is Anger: Anger is a normal and natural emotion that everybody experiences from time to time though sometimes unwanted or irrational. Whether it’s anger at another person for something, or anger over the various injustices in the world, anger is a common human feeling and response. If you’re mad about something and you’re not going to take it anymore, you’re feeling anger, a strong emotion you experience when you think someone has done you wrong and you want to scream and kick, you’re feeling anger.

Influences

Excessive anger can be caused by a variety of circumstances.

Your Current Situation: If you are dealing with a prolonged stressful and anxious situation, it’s normal to experience feelings of anger or frustration and can be difficult to control your emotions. For eg: Personal problems, such as missing a promotion at work or relationship difficulties

Your Family History: As a child and young adult, you may have learned unhealthy or unproductive ways to deal with anger from your parents, guardians or other family members who were a part of your upbringing.

Past Events: If you have experienced traumatic or stressful events, it’s normal to feel residual fear and anger. Traumatic events can have a lasting impact on your mental health. For eg: An event like bad traffic or getting in a car accident

Issues

There is a difference, between occasionally getting angry and having anger issues. Are you easily irritated or frustrated, and find yourself feeling angry more often than you probably should? If so, then you are like millions of people who deal with anger issues. And for those whose anger goes beyond the occasional, there are some very clear signs that you have anger issues.

1. Can’t take criticism: People with an anger problem are ones who cannot listen to constructive criticism. They are quick to get defensive and fire back at the person trying to help them. It affects your relationships and social life, constant negative thinking and focusing on negative experiences.
2. Always have to win an argument: People who are unable to control their anger have to have the last word, they won’t back down, they feel impatient, irritated, and hostile. The argument is less about the actual source of the conflict and more about dominating the argument.
3. Very short fuse: Angry people have a very short emotional shelf-life, their patience is very thin and will often explode at the drop of a hat by shouting and yelling with an inability to control their anger arguing with others often, and getting angrier in the process.
4. Holds grudges: Hanging onto resentment and bitterness with no tolerance for forgiving. If you can’t forgive someone, and you constantly bring up the offense to tear others down, it’s a sign you have an anger problem.
5. Other’s say you have an anger problem: Most people get angry, but not all people are told they have an anger problem. If people close to you (friends, family, spouse, children) comment that you have an anger problem, then they may have a point.

Our Specialties

If you find that your anger is getting in the way of a productive day, or your relationships with others, however, then you may benefit from managing your anger in a healthy way.If you don’t deal with your anger problem, it could one day escalate to a point where you do something extreme and regrettable. Violence is one possible outcome. You could get so angry that you end up hurting yourself or someone you care about without intending to do so. Anger emotions can have a huge impact on both our personal and professional relationships. Mindscape anger management counselling program is designed to help deal with anger and other negative emotions.

· Identify and Manage factors that make you get angry: Identify your Stressors and emotional signs that commonly trigger or worsen your anger, recognizing physical signs that your feelings of anger are rising — for example, sleeping poorly, clenching your jaw, a racing heart or driving too fast. Managing these warning signs early is an important step in controlling your anger.

· Learn specific skills to respond in non aggressive ways to those identified stressors before you get angry.

· Recognize when you aren’t thinking logically about a situation, and correct your thinking and calm yourself down when you begin to feel upset.

· Communicate effectively to defuse anger and resolve conflicts.

· Counselling helps you to Express your feelings and needs assertively (but not aggressively) in situations that make you feel angry and Focus on problem-solving — instead of using anger, to resolve the situation

Benefits

Successful anger management therapy develops healthy ways for people to express anger and frustration,sets guidelines,a controlled platform for the release of their emotions.

People at our counselling sessions are encouraged to examine what triggers their anger, and aims to achieve constructive responses, rather than destructive ones, understand that anger responses may be defense mechanisms for other concerns.

*Become More Empathetic: You develop empathy for others, which helps you to have a better understanding of the other party, see the situation from the other person’s point of view, hence you will find there is no room for conflict.

*Building Better and Improved Relationships: Anger can have a huge impact on both personal and professional relationships. Individuals with anger issues, avoid those they love most when they realize they are hurting them with their anger.

*Identifying triggers and Gaining New Insight: Anger Management sessions provides you with a platform to learn more about your anger, its root cause and triggers.The way you feel and express yourself in life can most often be connected to feelings and emotions that you have experienced in your past. Once this connection is identified you will gain new insight which will help you be more aware of your feelings and learn the nature and its origin, so that these triggers can be avoided or managed.

*Developing Better Judgement with coping skills: Anger management sessions will help you learn how to cope with problems as they arise, without having to resort to anger and frustration. Anger left uncontrolled  leads to poor decision making it difficult for you to think clearly, and may result in poor judgment.You’ll learn to use your coping skills, to channelize  your frustrations and anger as motivators.

*Experiencing Less Stress and Maintain Better Health: The ability to better manage stress will be an immediate benefit of anger management.

*Replacing Aggressive Communication With Assertive: Most times anger and angry situations can be avoided if the parties involved knew how to communicate assertively and better by replacing aggression with assertion, rather than letting your anger flare up. Thus, express and talk about things that frustrate you and avoid impulsive,hurtful words and maintain positive relationships.

*Knowing Your Responsibility: In anger management you develop an ability to recognize what you are responsible for, such as when you are the cause of a problem and when you are innocent. When you recognize you are not at fault, you know how to keep a situation calm.

The first step towards change is awareness of the problem.The biggest obstacle for those of us with anger issues is denying that it’s true. Long-term anxiety from anger can pose dangerous risks to your physical and emotional states. Before your anger and anxiety wreak havoc with your entire life, find out what you can do to stop the cycle by calling Mindscape. Anger counseling can help repair relationship rifts, and promote deeper, healthier bonds and improved relationships with the people in your lives.