Anger is a normal and natural emotion that everybody experiences from time to time though sometimes unwanted or irrational. Whether it’s anger at another person for something, or anger over the various injustices in the world, anger is a common human feeling and response. If you are mad about something and you are not going to take it anymore, you are feeling anger, a strong emotion you experience when you think someone has done you wrong and you want to scream and kick, you are feeling anger.

Excessive anger can be caused by a variety of circumstances.

• Your current situation: If you are dealing with a prolonged stressful and anxious situation, it's normal to experience feelings of anger or frustration and can be difficult to control your emotions. For example, personal problems, such as missing a promotion at work or relationship difficulties.
• Your family history: As a child and young adult, you may have learned unhealthy or unproductive ways to deal with anger from your parents, guardians or other family members who were a part of your upbringing.
• Past events: If you have experienced traumatic or stressful events, it's normal to feel residual fear and anger. Traumatic events can have a lasting impact on your mental health. For example: An event like bad traffic or getting in a car accident.

There is a difference, between occasionally getting angry and having anger issues. Are you easily irritated or frustrated, and find yourself feeling angry more often than you probably should? If so, then you are like millions of people who deal with anger issues and for those whose anger goes beyond the occasional, there are some very clear signs that you have anger issues such as- 

• Can't take criticism: People with an anger problem are ones who cannot listen to constructive criticism. They are quick to get defensive and fire back at the person trying to help them. 

• Always have to win an argument: People who are unable to control their anger have to have the last word, they won't back down, they feel impatient, irritated, and hostile. The argument is less about the actual source of the conflict and more about dominating the argument. 

• Very short fuse: Angry people have a very short emotional shelf-life, their patience is very thin and will often explode at the drop of a hat by shouting and yelling with an inability to control their anger arguing with others often and getting angrier in the process. 

• Holds grudges: Hanging onto resentment and bitterness with no tolerance for forgiving. If you can't forgive someone and you constantly bring up the offense to tear others down. 

• Others say you have an anger problem: Most people get angry, but not all people are told they have an anger problem. If people close to you (friends, family, spouse, children) comment that you have an anger problem, then they may have a point. 

If you allow your anger to get in the way of your day-to-day activities, it could one day escalate to a point where you do something extreme and regrettable. Violence is one possible outcome. You could get so angry that you end up hurting yourself or someone you care about without intending to do so. Anger emotions can have a huge impact on both our personal and professional relationships. Mindscape anger management counselling program is designed to help you deal with: 

• Identifying and managing anger stressors: Identify the stressors and emotional signs that commonly trigger or worsen your anger. Physical signs such as - sleeping poorly, clenching your jaw, a racing heart or driving too fast are indications of rising anger. Managing these warning signs early is an important step in controlling your anger. 

• Learning specific skills to respond in non-aggressive ways to the identified stressors before you get angry. 

• Recognizing when you aren't thinking logically about a situation, correct your thinking and calm yourself down when you begin to feel upset. 

• Communicating effectively to defuse anger and resolve conflicts. 

• Expressing your feelings and needs assertively (but not aggressively) in situations that make you feel angry and focus on problem-solving instead of using anger, to resolve the situation. 

Our counselling sessions encourage you to: 

• Become more empathetic: You develop empathy for others, which helps you to have a better understanding of the other party, see the situation from the other person’s point of view, hence you will find there is no room for conflict. 

• Building better and improved relationships: Anger can have a huge impact on both personal and professional relationships. Individuals with anger issues, avoid those they love most when they realize they are hurting them with their anger. 

• Developing better judgment with coping skills:  Anger left uncontrolled leads to poor decision making. We help you learn how to cope with problems as they arise, without having to resort to anger and frustration. 

• Experiencing less stress and maintain better health: The ability to better manage stress will be an immediate benefit of anger management. 

• Replacing aggressive communication with assertive: Most times, anger and angry situations can be avoided if the parties involved knew how to communicate assertively and better by replacing aggression with assertion, rather than letting your anger flare up. 

• Knowing your responsibility: In anger management, you develop an ability to recognize what you are responsible for, such as, when you are the cause of a problem and when you are innocent. When you recognize you are not at fault, you know how to keep a situation calm. 

The first step towards change is awareness of the problem. The biggest obstacle for those of us with anger issues is denying that it's true. Before your anger and anxiety wreak havoc with your entire life, find out what you can do to stop the cycle. Anger counselling can help repair relationship rifts, promote deeper and healthier bonds and thereby improve relationships with the people in your lives.